It’s June, and in America, we honor fathers during the month of June.
There’s a reason we refer to the vulnerable children in the title of our book as fatherless. In most societies, developed or developing, mothers seem to bear the larger burden of child care. When mothers are unavailable, it’s often grandmothers and aunts who step in to raise the children. In some ways, that’s good and natural. Mothers bear the children; they feed babies from their bodies; there’s something particularly special between a woman and her child.
But it’s not enough. We were made to bond with our fathers and long for our Heavenly Father. It’s God’s holy design that we have an earthly father to protect us, love us, nurture us, care for us. And so many children lack this critical bond.
In Chapter 12 of In Defense of the Fatherless, we discuss the need to support and care for men to encourage them to be the fathers God designed them to be. So many programs support women and children (and rightly so!), but often the men are forgotten. Perhaps it’s prejudice – they just don’t seem as sympathetic. Perhaps it’s subtle racism, men of color have often been marginalized, feared and oppressed. Whatever the reasons, we can’t make advances in ending the orphan crisis without fathers.
Ultimately, it’s our desire that every human on earth grows to know and understand the love of God the father. If we stand back and allow millions of children to be raised without an earthly father (biological, adoptive, kin, or foster), how difficult will that end goal be to obtain?