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Will you join me in defending the fatherless?

I am both humbled and thrilled to announce the launch of In Defense of the Fatherless. Over the last three years, I have been writing a book about redeeming international adoption and orphan care. Writing this book has been an incredible journey. It is hard to believe I am holding this book in my hands. I spent this weekend at the beach with a few friends who I have known since we were fifteen. Loryn, Courtney and Bonnie know my story from the beginning. They were the ones I called when I met this kind, smart, handsome guy named Mark – and they stood...

Adoption Loss and Belonging

Our children are not our own. This was the hard truth we learned over the last four years. Early in the process of praying, learning, discerning God's will. Were we called to adopt? We knew we could not have any more babies the old-fashioned way. My pregnancies were too high risk. Just one year earlier, our son Zephaniah was born more than two months after I had been on months of bed rest. That Zephaniah was born as big and healthy as he was? A small miracle. We decided on the name Zephaniah Isaac just moments before he was born. My labor with Zephaniah...

A little girl who still waits

Two years ago God called Mark and I to go to Uganda. On paper, we were ready to adopt. We had been working with an adoption agency and waiting for a referral. And then one day in January 2011, God told us to go to Uganda. We bought plane tickets, packed our suitcases and said goodbye to our three little boys. Specifically, God called us to visit orphanages, churches, hospitals and ministries caring for children affected by HIV and AIDS. We had a heart to tell the truth: these kids can be adopted. We were among a growing number of families...

There’s nothing more powerful than hope

Wow. I cannot believe a year has gone by. This time last year, I was preparing for my first Noonday Collection Trunk Show. A year later, I've had the opportunity to do nearly 40 trunk shows. I've had the opportunity to share my heart for widows and orphans with hundreds of women in Seattle. I've been been able to encourage and support adoptive families. I've been able to give generously to ministries caring for orphans and widows all around the world. All by God's grace. I am so thankful that God has allowed me to share in his work. Do you...

First look at Noonday in Rwanda

 Something beautiful happened last week in Rwanda.  Eighteen years ago, nearly one million people were killed over a period of 100 days in Rwanda. The small African nation was torn apart by genocide. As I flew into Kigali - the capitol of Rwanda - two weeks ago, I imagined the red dirt stained by the blood of mothers, fathers, children. I have read half a dozen books about the genocide in Rwanda, but this was my first time visiting the country once devastated by unimaginable violence. Though Rwanda is a nation that remembers, it is not a nation defined by it's history. Rwanda is a...

Why write another book about adoption

I am in the process of writing a book, In Defense of the Fatherless: Redeeming International Adoption and Orphan Care. Here are some answers to questions you may have. Why does there need to be another Christian book about orphans and adoption? In recent years, evangelical Christians have awoken to God’s heart for orphans. In response, thousands of Christian families are considering adoption and churches are launching orphan care ministries. The purpose of this book is to examine why some responses to the orphan crisis, while good-intentioned, are misguided and ultimately harmful to vulnerable families and children. The book will challenge Christians...

What is crazy?

It's almost official. We're like 99% sure we're moving overseas. We think we're getting an offer on our house tomorrow. Mark's interviewing in London on Monday. The reality of everything changing is hitting me. I often feel excited. Sometimes I feel overwhelmed. But mostly, I feel a crazy sense of peace that God is leading. But before I go, there are some things I have to say. About a year ago, I was laying awake in bed in Africa, listening to rain pound like the beat of a dream on the roof of our guest house. We had spent the day visiting a...

White mama, black baby

I am a white adoptive mom of a beautiful black daughter adopted from Uganda. This has become a part of my identity. It is something I cannot avoid. It's obvious. Gabrielle and I look like mother and daughter - and at the same time we look nothing like each other. I have a million feelings about this, though I am still struggling to find the right words. More than anything, I am thankful. Becoming a multi-racial family has been a rich experience. I love Gabrielle's dark chocolate skin. I love how it is soft like satin. I love the texture of her curly...

The beginning of this book

When my husband and I began our adoption journey two years ago, we knew little about ethical adoption. We wanted another child. We felt God had put adoption on our hearts. We knew there were millions of orphans around the world in need of families. As we read blogs written by adoptive families, we were captivated by the stories of transformation. We wanted to offer family, hope and love to a child who would otherwise be an orphan. As we began our journey researching adoption, we learned about Ethiopia. After meeting with a few agencies, we felt nervous. The agencies were not...

And so the adventure begins

I wrote this blog one year ago - and looking back it is amazing what God has done in 12 months! Around this time last year, we felt God calling us to radically change how we were living. And so we did. We sold our house, our cars and more than half our stuff. We moved to London. Mark went back to graduate school. By God's grace, we're living this adventure...

Introducing Gabrielle Sarah

Introducing our beautiful daughter, Gabrielle Sarah. Gabrielle Sarah was born on October 16, 2010 weighing about 5 pounds and 8 ounces. We met her on February 3, 2011. When we held her for the first time, we knew right away that God was calling us to be her family. We returned to Uganda six weeks later and Gabrielle Sarah was placed in our arms on March 21. Not quite three weeks later, on April 8, we were granted legal guardianship of our beautiful baby girl. Gabrielle means God is my strength. Sarah means princess. Sarah was the name given to our little girl by her birth mama. We have...