Will you join me in defending the fatherless?
I am both humbled and thrilled to announce the launch of In Defense of the Fatherless.
Over the last three years, I have been writing a book about redeeming international adoption and orphan care. Writing this book has been an incredible journey. It is hard to believe I am holding this book in my hands.
I spent this weekend at the beach with a few friends who I have known since we were fifteen. Loryn, Courtney and Bonnie know my story from the beginning. They were the ones I called when I met this kind, smart, handsome guy named Mark – and they stood at my side when I married him a few years later. A lot of life has happened since then. There have been weddings and divorces, babies and miscarriages, new jobs and master’s degrees, even heart surgeries and cancer. But with these girls, years feel like days. Somehow we always pick up where we left off.
The last time I saw these friends was three years ago, around the time I started to write In Defense of the Fatherless. At the time I was a mom living in the suburbs outside Seattle. We were at the end of an adoption journey that left me with eyes wide open.
Like so many couples, Mark and I started the adoption journey full of hope. We believed there was an orphan crisis and that God was calling us to adopt. By the time our daughter was home, we realized the orphan crisis was far more complicated than we could have imagined. Our hearts were broken – and we were angry at the injustice we had seen in Uganda.
In Defense of the Fatherless started as the conversation I wanted to have with a friend who was curious about adoption.
I began writing the book because there was never enough time over a cup of coffee to say everything I wanted to say. Our church community in Seattle was full of families considering adoption. We would gather together to talk and pray. I would do my best to answer these families’ questions about adoption. But the truth is I had questions: big questions that no one was asking.
And so I began to seek the truth about adoption and orphan care. I opened the Bible and literally thousands of pages of research. I listened to stories and interviewed experts. Over time I realized I was not alone in asking questions. From families wondering about corruption in adoption to pastors asking how to do orphan care without orphanages, Christians were starting to ask better questions.
By God’s grace, I was not alone in asking questions – and I was not alone in writing In Defense of the Fatherless either. About six months after I began writing, our family moved to London. Life in London with four children and two careers didn’t leave much time for writing a book. When I was ready to throw in the towel, God opened the door for one of the most courageous women I have ever met to join me in this journey. Together with the help of our fantastic publisher, we finished the book.
Three years ago when I started writing In Defense of the Fatherless, I was broken. But today I am full of hope.
As Amanda and I wrote this book, we met some amazing people who are doing incredible things in Uganda, Ethiopia, DRC and across the globe. What could have been a book of hard questions became a book of inspiring solutions. In Defense of the Fatherless offers hope deeply rooted in the unfolding story of God.
And yet there’s more to be done. There are better questions we need to ask. It is time for the Church to have a conversation about orphans and widows – and about the poverty, injustice and sin that leave families vulnerable.
Are you praying about adopting a child? We wrote this book to help you start your journey.
Are you already engaged in orphan care ministry? We wrote this book to help you make a lasting impact.
Do you share our passion for reforming adoption and orphan care? We wrote this book as a resource you could share with your community.
Let’s start a conversation. Let’s invite our communities to ask better questions. Let’s dream about the end of the orphan crisis. And let’s start with our own hearts. Will you join us? Here are a two ways you can get involved.
Read the Book
We’ll make it easy for you to start. Here is the first chapter of In Defense of the Fatherless for free. If you are challenged by this sneak peek and you want more, you can buy In Defense of the Fatherless on Amazon or at a bookstore near you.
Start a Conversation
It’s your turn to ask better questions. Invite Christian families and churches in your community to have a conversation about orphan care and adoption, or join in the conversation on social media. Write a review on Amazon. Over the next month, we’ll be using the hashtag #AskBetterQuestions on Twitter and Instagram and we would love for you to join us.